On my Ask Ellie 5.0 post, one reader wanted to know what the transition has been like going from one to two kids and if it has been smoother than our transition of becoming first-time parents. My answer is in the video below. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section.
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I agree with you Ellie. Definitely having the first more difficult than adding more. I remember when our oldest turned one, we turned to each other, my husband and I, and said “we did it”! Our baby and us have made it through the first year! It felt like a real accomplishment of mastering all the baby’s needs, the changes in our life, and all the “firsts” that happen developmentally in that first year. Lots of love and fun and the best thing ever, but challenging at the same time.
Does your church accept lgbt people? I’d like to know.
Yes, they would be very much welcome to attend our church.
My 1st baby was a dream! The 2nd was a shock because she wasn’t like the 1st LOL, and the 3rd was a tornado!
I had the opposite situation with my first two babies. My daughter who was my first would cry all throughout the night and sometimes would cry a lot through the day. I had my pediatrician check her out a few times to see if there was a problem but there was never anything wrong. We came to the conclusion that she just loved being held and rocked. lol My second child who is my son was such a content baby and slept all night and made life so easy for me. They were polar opposite as babies. LOL
Tbh, I found number 1 incredibly difficult. Nothing has ever been as hard since… I think it was such a profound shock to suddenly BE PARENTS…
I always say to my eldest that he made me a mummy (an idea he loves). I don’t mention that the metamorphosis was not at all easy!
I’m now pretty sure that I’m going to stop at 3 children (not without some sadness but a decision can be the right one, even if you are sometimes wistful). However, whenever I hear about a pregnancy, I feel such a pull! It’s the idea- the hope- of a new member of the family. It’s like a visitor you’re longing to see; you make a lovely dinner and set an extra seat at the table. And I feel sad that I’m not going to have that ever again!
My second baby was a terror compared to my first (who was a good sleeper!) but I found the whole process much easier to cope with!
We’re now many years down the line. My youngest is going to be four in a couple of weeks and I no longer have a “young family”… It’s a little bit sad. However, when we set out to do something without a happy bag or a buggy, it’s exciting!
I feel so grateful for my lovely boys! And nothing compares to having them…
That has to be a hard transition to be out of the baby stage forever, but like you said, it’s easier to be able to go out and do things without diapers or a stroller. Things like amusement parks, hiking, biking, movie theaters, water parks (this might be a silly question, but are water parks much of a thing in the UK?) are all tough with babies but so much fun with older children. There are blessings to every season, for sure.
All moments are wonderful! And actually, I like my children more every day…
Water parks aren’t really a thing. It’s not warm enough! Most theme parks have water rides but I can’t think of anywhere which is just a water park! Oh, but once your kids can swim- that is fantastic! I just took my boys to ski in Austria and there was a heated outdoor pool. It was genuinely fantastic to be able to almost relax in the water, as they swam about pretty confidently!
Interesting! Thanks for explaining that. Skiing in Austria sounds lovely.
Our first one was so easy. Right before I got pregnant for the second time my husband got a great promotion that required a lot of travel, for weeks at a time. We moved to where we knew no one. Found out it was twins and I was put in the hospital, on bedrest, at 20 weeks. I had only made one friend and no family around. Premature twins that came home needing to be fed every two hours was definitely something we weren’t expecting. The first few years of their lives is a blur to me but we all survived. The twins are now 27.
That sounds tough. Did you end up hiring a nanny to watch your first, while you were in the hospital?
I had to give up all control and let my husband and mom find a baby sitter. Our oldest was 3 and I was a stay at home mom. His preschool was great by letting him stay until 3 and then the assistant principal drove him to our house. The 2 HS girls, sisters, that lived across the street stayed with him until dad came home. He was able to give up travel until I came home. My mom flew in every weekend to visit me and help out at the house. The best baby gift we got was when I went into the preschool to pay for the extra care and transportation and was told no charge. It was their gift to us!
I bet that was so hard to go through. But how kind of the school to do that for you at no charge!
My 1st was an easy transition as I was doing online school at the time. I just held him while typing on my computer and listening to classes. The 2nd was horrible. The baby had colic and didn’t sleep at all. Ever. One night I tried CIO in desperation, just patting the back every 30-45 minutes. After 5 hours of screaming, I lost all hope of sleeping again. In fact, this child didn’t sleep through the night until 4.5. I’m not sure I can blame my difficulty on # of children, but for me 2 was much harder to navigate.
I think I’m the one who asked this question. I have to agree 100 percent, having the first was an absolute whirlwind. Everyone will tell you you won’t sleep again but it’s different when you’re actually not sleeping for a long time 🤣 my second boy (first three are boys) was easy peasy but it was also his personality. My first I’d have to work to get him to sleep, my second could fall asleep any time – it was incredible. But, having two and ‘knowing what to expect’ meant nothing when #3 came around. He was a Little firecracker and going to make his self known 🤣 he wouldn’t sleep without me holding him, as soon as I’d put him down he’d wake right up and I had two others to chase around…. I was also potty training #1 when 3 was a newborn… oh the memories 🤦🏼♀️😜 so overall, I think it’s a personality thing whether they will be easy or not 🤷🏼♀️😂
Agreeeeeeeeee.
First one is the hardest and all the rest are easier.